What LOVE would do.............

I spent the last few days of 2008 and the first few days of this new year, with Cave Man in his quiet safe haven, watching movies in our jammies and just enjoying our time together.

He is now feeling much better; back among the living after dangerously depleting his body and brilliant mind of nutrients and electrolytes, coupled with his dismal and debilitating thoughts and the effects of two powerful antibiotics prescribed to treat a once out-of-control intestinal infection. While the antibiotics killed the infection as he remained on a total liquid diet as prescribed, the sugary liquids he consumed, helped the candida to flourish in his mouth. After some research, and as an antidote, he promptly stopped the sugary liquids, for only small amounts of water, which nauseated him to the point he stopped consuming even that. He was probably extremely dehydrated by the time I arrived.

I truly feel he would have laid there and died, had I not headed up there with Gatorade in hand for some immediate sustenance and a comforting, encouraging and loving presence.

In the book, Conversations with God, by Neale Donald Walsch; God says "Yea, let all those who have ears to hear, listen. For I tell you this: at the critical juncture in all human relationships, there is only one question: What would love do now? No other question is relevant, no other question is meaningful, no other question has any importance to your soul."

God says that this principle of "love-sponsored action" has been widely misunderstood-and the misunderstanding leads to resentment and anger in life. He says "For centuries you have been taught that love-sponsored action arises out of the choice to be, do and have whatever produces the highest good for another. Yet, I will tell you this: the highest choice is what produces the highest good for you."

God explains that the moment one decides the highest "good" one can do for oneself, it becomes the highest good for another.

Prior to me heading up North to be there with Cave Man he expressed concerns that he couldn't be as giving in our relationship as he isn't fully capable of doing so, since he continues to struggle with his mental and physical health, at this stage of his life. However, my decision to head up there was based upon what LOVE would do in this situation.

For whatever reasons, he and I are in each other's life right now...again...and I believe we are both reaping the benefits of the highest good in one another at this time. Whether he believes it or not, he blesses me in so many ways. It's really a win-win situation for us both.

I am home now, although reluctantly, as Tam had to make her monthly, "frequent flyer" visit to the hospital emergency room via ambulance, where I met her last night after driving 1 hour and 45 minutes to get there. Apparently the hospital didn't find her condition "emergent" as they checked her oxygen level, blood pressure, took some blood, then sent her out to the over-crowded waiting room filled with the assorted walking wounded, maimed and ill, with an extremely foul-smelling old homeless guy seeking refuge from the cold rain, thrown in for good measure. It made for some good people watching and the opportunity to do a good deed, by offering and buying the odorous old gent a 20 ounce soda to wash down his cold and petrified McDonald's hamburger.

After waiting nearly 5 hours, Tam decided she'd had enough and asked me to take her home. I shrugged and we headed off to drive up the mountain through extreme fog and rain. It's not like she left against medical advice as they really didn't want to treat her in the first place and I think they made their point. She made her point with me as well, as I too will rethink how much of an "emergency" she's actually having in the future.

But, again...I would like to think I did what LOVE would do in that situation, too.